Question to the psychologist:

We have been together with my boyfriend for a year and a half, we are 20 years old, I am Russian, and he is a Muslim, but very Russified. At the beginning of the relationship, he was attentive, proactive: very often he called, called somewhere, he himself came up with how we would spend the time, where are we going etc.

Now everything is quite the opposite: I have to ask him for all of the above! Personally, I can't understand how you can ask for this, because it should come from the guy itself. When we walk with him, he always says how good he is, that he is resting, etc. But for a whole week we see each other for an hour at lunchtime at the university and for 15 minutes while driving home. We spend time together only on one weekend, and even then not always. This arrangement of events does not suit me and I ask him to spend time together more often, I ask him to take the initiative and everything else, but in response I hear only that after class he gets tired and wants to go home, and on weekends he cannot always be with me, because there are family matters, etc.

Now I myself often call him somewhere, think of what we will do, where we will go. But most often I hear a refusal, tk. he: tired; cannot today; need to go home earlier; does not want, etc. I have a complete feeling that I am being imposed.

On this occasion, we often have conversations, the initiator of which, of course, I am. He gets very annoyed, considers it to be a brain drain, shuts me up. The most offensive thing is that he says that he is so comfortable and he will do as he wants, as he needs. What about me?

He often says that he loves me very much, that there will be no better girl in his life, that he did not love anyone so much. But why then such an attitude? I do everything for him, I listen to everything he asks for, I always help.

He says, they say, the relationship has acquired stability, calmed down and, naturally, there is no such desire to constantly live together, as before. But not that everything should subside! We do not live together, we are not swallowed up by the everyday routine and household routine.

It is very painful for me that he openly says that he will do as he needs, period. But you can't do that. There are two people in a relationship, not one.

And no matter how many times I start a conversation about this, everything turns into accusations that I have already got it, that I am talking nonsense and all the rest. But it really worries me - that he does not consider me.

Because of these conversations, quarrels arise that almost lead to parting. But I really love this person and am not ready to lose him. In general, he is a good guy, but this selfishness of his spoils everything that is possible.

I don’t know how to make him listen to me, to my desires, to what I ask him about, because if I repeat more than once, then it’s very important for me, but he doesn’t care.

The question is answered by the psychologist Bogutskaya Olesya Anatolyevna.

Hello Mary!

No not like this. If you repeat more than once, this is a brain drain. This is how he perceives it. You say that you listen to him, and he tells you this directly. So hear him. If you endlessly ask him to pay more attention to you, it will annoy him even more, and in return you will receive only a backlash - up to and including parting.

Try to turn on and start using your natural feminine softness, wisdom. Make him comfortable next to you, so that he doesn't want anywhere from you. What is needed for that? Think, I'm sure you will find the right path. For some it is a good dinner and a warm evening, for some it is an opportunity to go about their business so that they are not distracted. Everyone has something of their own. You are still thinking about yourself in this relationship. This is correct, but if you do it head-on, directly, along the shortest road, you won't get far. Learn to get your way in a soft, roundabout way. Believe me, if he will get what he needs next to you, he will not want anywhere from you. He will postpone his affairs in order to spend an extra hour with you. Because you will give him the very state in which he is comfortable, in which he will want to return. And then you will receive attention to yourself, affection, care. But first give, and then ask in return. A woman in a relationship should offer more to a man. And he will not remain in debt to a truly generous woman.

During the period of falling in love, women often do not notice the dismissive and consumer attitude, and when they take off their rose-colored glasses, they are disappointed. To understand whether a girl will receive deception and betrayal in return for sincere feelings and loyalty, she should carefully look at the behavior of her chosen one. Special methods of psychologists will help to understand whether a man needs a girl or whether he only uses her.

There are a number of signs that indicate a man is not ready for a serious relationship. These include the following behavioral features:

1. 1. The place and time of the meeting he appoints himself, when it is convenient for him. The opinion and wishes of the girl's partner do not bother. The rest of the time, he does not pick up the phone, abruptly ends the conversation and refers to the workload at work. No matter how busy a man is, if he needs a man, he will always listen to his opinion.
2. 2. At any time, he can change the girl's plans without having a good reason for this. He prefers to hold meetings in the dark on a neutral territory. Men only allow themselves to treat their mistresses this way.
3. 3. The partner tells practically nothing about his life and does not introduce relatives, friends and colleagues. He does not want to start communicating with the environment of the new passion and her parents.
4. 4. The man is constantly dissatisfied with the behavior of the girl and expresses all the comments out loud. He may not be happy with appearance, hobbies and preferences of the beloved, but he does not want to part. A man's goal is to lower a woman's self-esteem.
5. 5. He can make a scandal, and, without asking for forgiveness, do not get in touch for several days so that the girl feels guilty.

If a man doesn't need a woman, he doesn't follow his speech. Compliments are like a performance in a cheap theater. The partner does not need to select words to address the interlocutor - the guy does not appreciate her and does not consider it necessary to waste time on such "trifles". If the girl is completely indifferent, the partner allows himself to insult her and use profanity in her vocabulary.

When a man only needs one thing - an intimate relationship, he completely changes and surrounds the girl with feigned attention and care. You need to understand that men are more in need of physical intimacy and are ready to act out plays during the period of its lack. If a man reacts rudely and inadequately to a refusal, then the best option the development of relations is their break.

You can check the presence of sincere feelings in a man by his concern. It is enough for a woman to be in difficult situation to find out why the beloved stays with her. In the absence of reciprocity, the partner will not be interested in her health and bring medicines when she gets sick. He does not care about any problems of a woman, she will solve them herself.

If a man does not need a girl, he will not use the pronoun "we" in conversation. A person can lie, writing various legends, thinking over all the details, but he does not consider this union as a couple that has prospects for the development of relations. A man can associate the pronoun “we” with upcoming events, for example, “Are we going to the cinema tomorrow? ", But he will not say such phrases as" When are we going to have a rest at the sea? "Or" When are we going to plan for the birth of a baby? ". He knows that the answer to these questions is “never,” and he sees no point in asking them.

In the absence of interest in a girl, a man will not get to know her hobbies, family and friends. He does not care about the experiences of the "beloved", and all conversations are connected only with what is happening in this moment... A guy can talk about a movie, but he never asks who her favorite director or actor is. If a woman starts a conversation herself, he will listen, without reacting, or transfer the topic. In such a situation, girls begin to blame themselves, believing that they overload the man with their petty problems, but this is not so. The chosen one deceives and uses a woman.

How to understand that a man needs a woman?

If the girl is needed by the chosen one, she will feel it and the need to ask herself questions will disappear. She will be surrounded by attention and care, and no busy work schedule will become an obstacle to spending time together. A man will not behave suspiciously and secretively. Already at the beginning of a relationship, he will introduce his beloved to parents and friends. The partner will not hide his personal life and will talk about his hobbies and hobbies. The following signs indicate genuine feelings in a man:

1. 1. He listens to the woman's opinion. If he does not agree with the girl, then he does as she asked.
2. 2. The presence of gifts indicates that the man is trying to win the chosen one, and she won his heart.
3. 3. He began to change in better side- got rid of bad habits, found a high-paying job or bought a new car.
4. 4. The guy says compliments, as he notices all the little things and details of the girl's appearance. He behaves politely and gallantly.
5. 5. In relation to a woman, a man is gentle and affectionate.

Falling in love makes a guy jealous. To do this, he does not have to make loud scandals and constantly find out with whom the girl spends time. When a woman interacts with young people, the man will hug her and show other courtesies to demonstrate that she is a couple. Some people cannot contain their emotions in a fit of jealousy, which often leads to scandals and quarrels. This behavior is unlikely to change.

A man who values ​​a woman will not spare money, time and mental strength for her. The person tries to help her in case of any problems. And he will never allow himself to offend a woman. If he did this, then he will definitely ask for forgiveness. In such a relationship, the girl feels desirable and at any time can rely on the chosen one.

Many believe that a man needs time to understand whether he needs a woman, and this is the justification for his coldness. In fact, sincere interest cannot be hidden, and if the feelings are mutual, the girl will definitely notice it. A woman needs a family, children and stability, and if a man does not understand this, then it is better to end such a novel right away.

Is there love in the distance?

When, at the time of talking on the phone, a girl thinks about whether a guy really needs her, she needs to really assess the situation and draw the right conclusions. If the acquaintance happened while on holiday in another country or visiting an entertainment establishment, the chances of creating a real lasting relationship are very small.

Lovers may share circumstances such as a business trip, school, or service. If a man really needs a girl, he will not call and write less often, but will constantly share his thoughts and experiences. He will find any ways to contact his beloved at least for a minute, he will not give empty promises.

A woman needs to determine who is the initiator of communication. If a man is not the first to write or call, then the girl's life does not interest him. He may not answer SMS and phone calls, constantly refer to his employment and come up with a lot of excuses to keep communication to a minimum.

How can you test your feelings?

If a woman doubts her partner, then the presence of feelings in him is easy enough to check. To do this, you need to take the following actions:

1. 1. Stop being interested in his life and affairs. All conversations about how the man spent his time, where he was and why he did not call should be excluded. If a guy has feelings for a girl, he will notice such changes and start asking counter questions.
2. 2. Change for the better. You can do a different hairstyle, buy new underwear or high-heeled shoes. He will surely notice such changes and begin to wonder for whom the woman started the transformation.
3. 3. Arouse feelings of jealousy. To do this, you need to ask a work colleague or friend for a ride home. During a conversation with a loved one, casually mention this without specifying the details - you need to give the man the opportunity to come up with the ending of the story himself. It will also be possible to cause a feeling of jealousy with calls and SMS, which will constantly come to the woman's phone.
4. 4. Imaginary pregnancy. You need to tell the guy about the pregnancy and monitor his reaction. If he was frightened, then there can be no talk of any sincere feelings.

Do not fight for a relationship that is far from ideal. You should not be content with little when you can find a loving and caring man. All people are different, and in modern world"consumer" attitude is more and more common. Some women are happy with this state of affairs, and they are ready to spend the best years of their lives on a person who is completely indifferent. Successful and motivated people immediately abandon such relationships and create happy marriages.

After parting

Some girls want to get back in touch after breaking up with their ex-boyfriend. Before starting active actions, you should make sure that he has feelings. This can be done according to the following criteria:

1. 1. Communication. If a man continues to communicate with an ex-girlfriend, she is dear to him at least as an interlocutor. If he writes SMS and calls at least once a week, he definitely cares, and he needs a girl's company.
2. 2. Meetings. After the termination of the relationship, men prefer to cut off all contacts with their beloved. If a guy offers friendship and tries to see each other as often as possible, then he probably still loves the girl.
3. 3. Statuses and music. V in social networks in the period after the breakup, on the page of the former lover, who still has feelings for the girl, you can notice sad statuses and music.
4. 4. An active lifestyle. Trying to forget the chosen one, many guys suddenly begin to lead an overly active lifestyle. This speaks of a strong emotional shock that was caused by the breakup.
5. 5. Lifestyle. If a person led a measured way of life, and after parting went "all bad", then he is worried, and he does not care.

Before resuming a relationship with an ex-boyfriend, it is worth remembering the reasons that provoked the breakup. Mental wounds do not heal for a long time, and, perhaps, the ex-boyfriend will not mind the relationship, but it is worth thinking about their expediency.

Features of the zodiac signs

To find out about the sincerity of a man's feelings, you can refer to the horoscope. Each zodiac sign has its own characteristics and manifests feelings in different ways:

1. 1. Aries. They are impatient and cannot wait. They want to get everything at once and talk about their passions without hesitation. Aries persistently achieve what they want, but this does not in any way speak of love. This is how they treat all the women they sympathize with. In the absence of reciprocity, they will not suffer and worry, but will find a new object. In the presence of serious feelings, Aries does not rush things, but tries to create an atmosphere of silence and comfort. To conquer the chosen one a man will be stories about how successful and strong he is.
2. 2. Taurus. If the woman is liked by the representative of this person, he will immediately let you know about it. The man will constantly call and write SMS. Seeing his beloved on the street, he will definitely call her and embrace her. Taurus loves and knows how to look after women. Such a man will invite a girl to various social events, give flowers and sweets. The more he spends on a girl, the more important she is to him, but because of his indecision, the "bouquet-candy" period may drag on.
3. 3. Gemini. They are very fond of flirting, are distinguished by their ingenuity in courtship and unpredictability. With these men, the feeling of boredom will be unfamiliar. They love to make fun of the girl and play her. But Gemini tend to idealize partners. After a closer acquaintance, they may become disappointed in the girl and start looking for new perfection. In the presence of serious feelings, a man will not ridicule a person's shortcomings and will treat weaknesses with affection.
4. 4. Cancer. This is a practical couch potato, whose priorities are family values. Before starting to date a girl, he will find out her attitude to the home and housekeeping. The representative of this sign evaluates women according to their readiness to fulfill its requirements. If a man's feelings are serious, he, on the contrary, will fulfill all the wishes of his beloved. It is very important for Cancer to have a devoted and loyal partner who can strengthen his inner peace.
5. 5. Leo. This is an ambitious man who does not like to hint, but speaks directly. He immediately makes it clear to the girl about his feelings. During the period of courtship, she prefers to go to expensive restaurants and surprise the chosen one with noble deeds, but this does not mean sincerity of feelings. If Leo really needs a girl, then he will stop talking about his merits and take a keen interest in her.
6. 6. Virgo. You can rely on the men of this sign in everything. They love to analyze the situation and give good advice. Virgos are difficult to call for a frank conversation, and they express their sympathy with hints. They will take a long time to decide whether a girl is suitable for a serious relationship. If such a man is really passionate about a woman, he will immediately make a marriage proposal. Having heard the refusal, Virgo will try to get her partner's attention for a long time.
7. 7. Libra. These men have a changeable mood, do not like quarrels and conflicts. They charge everyone around with their optimism. Libra men enjoy caring for a girl, and they are in no hurry to move to the next level of relationship. These guys are afraid of responsibility and commitment. If the partner is seriously passionate, he will begin to take decisive steps - he will introduce him to parents and friends, make an offer.
8. 8. Scorpio. Men of this sign have a special magnetism, which attracts women to them. He is akin to a good psychologist who knows how to speak words that hit right on target. He can surround a woman with attention and care, and his compliments cannot be forgotten, but this will in no way speak of the sincerity of his intentions. Scorpio really needs sex, and in order to get it, a man will go to any action. If he is tuned to serious relationship, it will notify everyone about what is in the pair. Scorpio will begin to behave as if the girl completely belongs to him and will be very jealous.
9. 9. Sagittarius. Men love adventure, independence, intimate relationships are important for them. Feelings are expressed by buying expensive gifts or going to restaurants. The chosen one must be ready for various adventures that so attract Sagittarius. If he likes the girl and he is in the mood for a serious romance, then everyone will try to be with her. free time... Sagittarius will constantly tell interesting stories, amaze with their intelligence and erudition.
10. 10. Capricorn. This man is very distrustful of others and constantly seeks to double-check everything. He falls in love hard and, afraid to show his feelings, demonstrates complete indifference to the object of love. It is important for Capricorn to understand that he can fully trust the girl. If he has serious intentions, he will begin to consult with a partner and show other signs of loyalty.
11. 11. Aquarius. They are smart and charming, but they prefer to demonstrate their feelings not with actions, but with words. They like to talk a lot and give the girl compliments. It is easier for Aquarius to first make the beloved the best friend, and then move on to a more serious level of relationship.
12. 12. Fish. These are very sensual natures, which are difficult to guess. If they fall in love, then for real. There will be violent quarrels and passionate reconciliation in the relationship. They are very touchy and, in the absence of feelings, the partner does not forgive and immediately leave. If Pisces has serious intentions, then he will be able to forgive almost everything, but his trust should not be abused.

Women are used to looking for excuses for men's "oversights". Do not blame yourself for the fact that your partner is cold and completely indifferent. It is better to start looking for a person who will appreciate the girl and will not give her a reason to think about the advisability of a union.

What if your boyfriend doesn't care about you ???? ((((and got a better answer

Answer from tanya pavlova [guru]
If aphrodisiacs and lace underwear have ceased to WORK, and when you answer the question "Do you love me?" You only hear the duty "UGU", THINK: DO YOU NEED IT?
Perhaps the relationship is exhausted, and there is NO SENSE TO Squeeze YOURSELF YOURSELF.
EXIT --- quietly close the door one after another.
But if, nevertheless, the heart is not ready for revolutions, and further life is not possible without a partner (albeit sometimes yawning), then we MUST WORK WITH THE “human material” that is here and now!
The key word is "BOLD".
You just have to do something that you would not have DECIDED before. Something unexpected, out of the RUTINE.
WHAT WOMAN BEHAVIOR IN BED DO MEN LIKE?
First of all, MEN WANT WOMEN TO HAVE SEX AND EXPRESS THEIR JOY.
SEXUAL RESPONSIBILITY ARE VALUED IN A PARTNER FIRST OF EVERYTHING, that is why many people like it for a woman to occasionally take the initiative, demonstrating how serious she is about sex.
The FEELING THAT HE WANTED flatter the man's LOVE, and the consciousness that he has a partner who is ready to take the initiative and, on occasion, TAKE ALL OBLIGATIONS RELATED TO PROXIMITY, causes him a state of BLISS.
------ keep it in EMOTIONAL TONE all the time ...
Remember that sex, like cupcake, must be painstakingly “cooked”.
Love needs to be "spoken" ... it is simply necessary in ordinary life to say affectionate words, to give compliments (for them this is a reason for action) frivolous jokes.
Perhaps even whispering INSANITY in your ear ...
And this is already to warm it up.
------ The truth "A MAN LOVES WITH EYES" is true at all times ...
Hence the conclusion: do not forget to look appropriately ...
---- be UNPREDICTABLE ...
Today you are to him with all your heart. Tomorrow is cold.
Confuse him.
THERE IS NOTHING LIKE ABOUT RELATIONSHIP LIKE A VARIABILITY OF RELATIONSHIP ...
--- Arouse jealousy ...
....just a little bit...

Answer from Svetlana...[guru]
let him go and forget. let him not be your boyfriend. you will worry less

Answer from Evgeniya[guru]
🙁 but nothing can be done ... leave ... just leave ... if you need it (and it happens so!) - you will be found and returned!

Answer from Pluwa[guru]
means not boring, just talk to him and solve the problem

Answer from [email protected]@ [guru]
usually in life it is always like this ... At first, your boyfriend doesn't care about you, but when he sees that your interest in him is fading away, he starts to worry ... And everything changes ...

Answer from "D.A.N.T.E"[guru]
in what sense is it all the same? Didn't buy a flower or didn't say a sweet word?

Answer from [email protected] [guru]
do not appreciate sorry ...
beauties are led to the yoke, and then cry and ask similar questions.
And happiness walks nearby, choose the guys easier and more carefully, look for them to live together and raise offspring, and not climb clubs, and fast in front of friends.

Answer from Karina Lee[newbie]
try to disappear for a while, you know how cool it is when he starts to panic, they don't pay attention to him

Answer from Fortunate[guru]
Well, it means not yours, it's obvious. Find yours. It works for everyone - for both men and women. 🙂

Answer from Talanga[master]
Change the guy!))

Answer from ~ Banana ~[guru]
and there is nothing you can do about it ....
either accept or leave.

Answer from Alexandra Medvedeva (Yusan)[guru]
And where do you get these ??

Answer from Andrey Tkach[guru]
Is it for sure that he is your boyfriend?

Answer from 3 answers[guru]

Hey! Here is a selection of topics with answers to your question: What to do if your boyfriend doesn't care about you ???? ((((

Wine and women .. Why do you think men are always guilty of everything women, and not themselves ??? Although they admit that
Men usually say compliments while it is candy, the bouquet period, and when the family begins

Hello dear readers of the Samprosvetbulletin blog!

“How do men fall in love? Is it true that they can easily switch to another woman in the first few months of dating? I thought he was in love with me because he showed so much interest. But suddenly he decided that we should not be together. I'm worried, but he doesn't care! And this is not the first time I notice this for men. The woman will suffer for another year and move away from disappointments, and he quickly found himself another. thereafter? Please explain to me this strange psychology of men ", - Marina writes.

“We met for a long time, I thought that there was already something serious between us, and somehow I let it slip. He was so surprised and said that he just hadn’t thought about the possibility of a relationship with me yet. It turned out that I sort of impose myself on him. He said that men just fall in love in a different way and are more independent, they can easily cut off emotions and move on. After that, he decided that I was too attached to him, but for now. I was terribly angry with him. Just tell me what it was and how do men fall in love at all? " - Svetlana writes.

How to understand that a man really loves you, see the last issue →.

Men and women experience similar emotions when it comes to love, but they develop feelings differently. Women can immediately begin to experience strong emotions and think about possible relationships as soon as they meet a man. Men generally go through certain emotional stages before they realize that they love a woman and want a serious relationship with her.

Emotional stages of love in men

1st stage - reaction to external attractiveness

The initial stage in the emergence of feelings in a man is physical attraction, his reaction to the external attractiveness of a woman.

If women can fall in love already during the first conversation with a man, then at the initial stage of acquaintance a man is attracted only by his appearance.

Each man is individual and each is attracted by some specific external features. Someone likes small breasts, someone big, someone else is important to something else. Sometimes a man himself cannot even understand what attracts him most in a woman.

Stage 2 - exploration

Men can be attracted to a large number of women and for various reasons, as a result, they check the reactions of women, in other words, they conduct preliminary reconnaissance.

Men can sympathize and flirt with as many women as possible at any time. But only when the woman has successfully passed the stage of exploration, the man begins to focus his attention only on her.

At the stage of exploration, a man tries to find out if there is at least a small confirmation that if he really starts caring for a woman he likes, something can work out.

Note that while a man may feel sexually attracted to a woman, he really doesn't care about the outcome. Therefore, if at this stage she rejects him or does not respond to courtship, he will not grieve and will quickly switch to another. Of course, there are exceptions, but this is basically how it happens.

Stage 3 - the hunt for attention

When a woman gives a man a positive signal for his courtship, he begins to hunt for attention. He can move on to this stage, even if this signal is not obvious enough, but the man is sure that he is liked.

The man's task is to get the attention of the chosen one and make it clear that he is interested in her.

As soon as the man receives positive feedback, for example, the woman agrees to go on a date with him, he moves on to the next stage.

Stage 4 - Impression Hunt

By this time, some women may already fall in love, but the man has not even come close to this yet. His job now is to impress a woman.

A man does his best to prove himself a worthy candidate. He plans dates, gives gifts, tries to make a woman happy in hopes of impressing her.

Until this stage, the man acted under the influence of physical attraction and did not question whether this woman was suitable for him. Now it was time for him to make a decision. He finally begins to wonder if a relationship could work out here.

The man asks himself:

Do I love her?

Do I want to be with her?

Will I be happy with her?

Is she the woman I want?

Keep in mind that at this stage it is quite easy for a man to abandon his chosen one for any reason. In turn, a woman, as a rule, begins to think about a joint future much earlier, and by this time she is already deeply emotionally involved in this relationship.

If the decision is negative, then the man simply throws the woman out of his head, begins to ignore her or is limited to short-term relationships without obligations.

This is exactly the stage when a man who until recently fought for the attention of his chosen one and seemed passionate, may suddenly at one moment lose all interest in her, continuing to live calmly on, while she is most likely experiencing pain, resentment and strong experiences.

Stage 7 - conscious love

This stage begins when a man decides that he loves his chosen one, wants to be with her, is able to make her happy and is convinced that she is exactly the woman he wants.

For many women, it seems strange that a man needs to decide for himself whether he loves. In fact, all of the above emotional stages in men are more likely to be instinctive than rationally.

Often, men refuse love at this stage for fear of being injured, under the influence of protective mechanisms.

On the other hand, if a man decided at this time to have a relationship, then now he is really ready for them. Then the next six months will be the most beautiful. A man literally overloads a woman with love, cares, and does great things.

The difference in the development of love in men and women

The existing difference in the development of love between men and women creates a lot of misunderstandings and leads to disappointment. If a woman comes to the desire for a relationship with a specific man on the basis of an unconscious impulse, then the man needs to process this decision at the level of consciousness and accept it with cool head... As you can see for yourself, a man can seem to be in love, fight for your attention, and then decide that he does not want a relationship now or that you somehow do not suit him.

For example, a woman meets a man, he goes out of his way to get her attention, impress her in full, and then suddenly decides that he does not want a relationship with her because she has a small child. "Why didn't you know this from the very beginning?" - the woman is surprised. Indeed, until the stage of making a decision, a man does not care about such issues.

I also want to emphasize that the stages I described are an average generalization. Each man is unique and can get out of this scheme, he can go through some stages quickly and come to the decision-making stage, at the same time as a woman. Sometimes a woman may not feel at all that there are some differences in the development of love between her and her chosen one. But, in general, the trend with the emotional stages of love in men is definitely visible.

What lesson can women learn from all this?

First of all, bring in more awareness and don't be led by emotional outbursts. As a rule, when you start to sort out relations with a woman in a more rational way, she sees that it is possible that the man who has started to ignore her does not need her, and therefore, there is nothing to worry about and shed tears because of him. After all, there are so many interesting things around and it is possible that somewhere now, at this moment, life has prepared new opportunities for you.

The relationship between two people is work and the desire of these people to be together. But sometimes, it seems that the partner has cooled down and would gladly interrupt communication. Most often, the weaker half experiences this feeling, since the girls are more emotional and suspicious. Then the question begins to torment them: how to understand that a man does not need you? After all, few people want to be a burden.

Take your time, maybe he needs you

If doubts crept into your head, do not succumb to them and momentary emotions, do not get a fever. It often happens that it seems to you. Perhaps somewhere in the subconscious you are afraid to be unnecessary and are looking for something that is not in reality, thereby provoking problems:

1. Unfounded suspicions are straining the situation.
2. The irritability on your part repels your partner.
3. Uncertainty spoils the mood, and you spoil it for those who are around.

So just do not hurry... Yes, you notice that tension has appeared between you: you see each other less often or he is not so affectionate, attentive as he was before. But no one bothers you to talk. Tell us what worries you. You will see, most likely, your doubts are in vain.

Easy conversation - The best way solve any problems and anticipate them.

How to understand that you are tired of a guy?

It happens that there is no way to ask in person like this, observe: something in his behavior will dispel your guesses or, on the contrary, confirm:

• Insincerity. Compliments pour in, as before, and even more often, but it all looks like a performance.
• He comes and calls, but only when he needs it.
• He reacts rudely if you deny him intimacy today because of poor health.
• He cannot give clear answers to your questions. The caring partner will sense your anxiety and take action to calm the anxiety - and explain everything. If he doesn't care, of course, it's easier to dismiss it with a simple phrase.

The main thing is to control yourself and do not make scenes, interrogations with preference. There are always crises in relationships. The couple either experiences them or breaks up. Give time to put everything in its place.

In this video, psychologist Maria Rozova will talk about ten signs that a guy needs you, and will give some tips:

How to understand that your husband is tired?

Husband and wife, who are constantly nearby, sometimes get a little tired of each other. This does not mean: "It's all over, he is no longer interested in me." This is a signal that you need to take a break and change the environment.

Yes, some couples live together in perfect harmony all their lives. But not everyone can do that. Therefore, be able to feel this moment in time and, in order not to push it to the extreme, behave correctly.

Here are some signs:

1. The husband became irritable. Literally everything makes him angry, and with other people he is friendly, sociable.
2. He stopped taking care of children. Their smile no longer touches him, and he always gives a negative answer to offers to go for a walk, to play football.
3. Doesn't introduce his friends. He prefers to visit the company alone.
4. He stopped taking care of himself: he shaves only before work, does not try to look neat next to you.
5. Can cancel your plans at the last minute, or leave you in the middle of the street while running away at the call of a neighbor to help move the sofa.

This behavior will not leave you indifferent and arouse suspicion. Probably, this is the very moment that comes in the life of any couple. Now everything depends on you, because it is unusual for husbands to be imbued with such things. They already have many problems: work, car, dacha.

Changing the state of affairs

Take the initiative and don't despair. Begin to discreetly rebuild your life:

• If lately you have often asked him where he went and when he will come. Stop doing it: "Bye, have a good day! " Over time, he himself will be surprised why you call less often, are not interested in him. When alarmed by this fact, explain it as it is;
• What if, on the contrary, you are too unfriendly with him, and he decided that he was not interesting to you. And it is not uncommon when people do not hear each other. He thinks that you have cooled to him, and you are the opposite. Many couples have already broken up because of such simple things. Take note of this;
• Make him a little jealous. But here you have to be very careful, many guys leave in such a situation. It's not that he doesn't care about you. And the fact is that if you feel better, then he only wants happiness.

It is easy to advise, but more difficult to translate into reality. But now everything is in your hands: from how wise your actions will be, the future of the family depends.

How to understand that a man needs you?

And in addition to everything I would like to say that it is better to pay attention not to how he runs away from you, but to what he shows how dear you are to him. You need to look at the situation from all sides.

1. He has a great relationship with your parents. This is very important, since usually young people are small hunters for family gatherings and with their mothers, and even with potential or successful mother-in-law, and even more so;
2. He considers your opinion. Listens and listens to him. Yes, perhaps somewhere inattentive, but he tries. It is always visible;
3. Never a man who respects, values ​​his woman, will not allow himself to humiliate or insult her. Whatever it was.

Don't try to see the flaws. It won't make it any easier. Try to see a hint that everything is fine.

The stronger sex differs from girls in its psychology. Very often they do not give their words and actions the meaning that women understand.

Here are some tips to help you figure out what's going on:

• Don't ask for an immediate explanation of what is said or done. This will cause a storm of emotions.
• If in doubt, don't blame him. Your statements will be annoying.
• Be less offended, and even more so do not say: "No, no, everything is fine!" Something bothers you, tell me personally. Such misconceptions accumulate and then turn into trouble. The guys are straightforward and expect this from you.
• It is also unusual for them to rejoice so violently at some events or your new dresses. They are a more silent and reserved people by nature. They don't have the same set of emotions that girls have.

In general, try to look for dirty tricks less. Talk about your concerns. With the guys, everything is strict, like in mathematics, if you don't invent and cheat yourself.

So, to sum up: do not torment yourself with thoughts, how to understand that a man does not need you? Better not to think about it again. Trust him, he will come up and say directly when such a problem arises, and will not beat around the bush.

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